Aaj aapka Sarthi kehta hai…
Boss bahut toxic hai, roz chhota feel karata hai
My boss is toxic and makes me feel small every day
उद्धरेदात्मनात्मानं नात्मानमवसादयेत्।
आत्मैव ह्यात्मनो बन्धुरात्मैव रिपुरात्मनः॥
Hindi: Insaan ko khud hi apne aap ko upar uthana chahiye, apne aap ko neeche nahi girne dena chahiye. Kyunki man hi apna sabse bada dost hai, aur man hi apna sabse bada dushman.
English: Let a person lift themselves up by their own self, and never let the self sink down. For the self alone is the friend of the self, and the self alone is its enemy.
Yeh shloka Gita ke chhathe adhyay (Dhyan Yog) mein hai. Krishna Arjun ko samjha rahe hain ki asli yogi kaun hai. Isi beech woh ek seedhi si baat kehte hain: apni utthaan ki zimmedari kisi aur ke haath mein nahi, apne haath mein hai.
Toxic boss ka sabse bada nuksaan kaam ka pressure nahi hai. Asli nuksaan yeh hai ki dheere dheere aap khud ko bhi unki nazar se dekhne lagte ho. Shloke ka shabd 'avasaadayet', yaani khud ko neeche dhasne dena, theek usi pal ko pakadta hai jab boss ki awaaz aapke andar ki awaaz ban jaati hai. Krishna yahan boss ko nahi badalte. Woh yaad dilate hain ki aapki keemat ka switch aapke paas hai, aur zaroorat pade to wahan se uthkar nikalna bhi 'uddhared', yaani khud ko upar uthana hi hai.
Katha: Neha, Khurana Sir aur Vidura ka dhanush
Neha Joshi, 28 saal, Pune ki marketing executive hai. Uske boss Khurana sir ka favourite message hai sirf ek "?", aur woh bhi raat 11:47 baje. Meeting mein Neha ka idea "bekaar" hota hai, aur agle din wahi idea Khurana sir ka "vision" ban jaata hai. Ab haal yeh hai ki Sunday shaam se hi Neha ka pet ghabrane lagta hai, aur woh khud se poochhti hai: "Kya main sach mein itni bekaar hoon?"
Mahabharat mein Vidura bhi aise hi darbar mein the. Hastinapur ke sabse samajhdar mantri, phir bhi Duryodhana unhe baar baar taana maarta tha ki "khaate hamara ho, gun Pandavon ke gaate ho." Vidura ne na apni zubaan gandi ki, na apna sach chhoda. Jo sahi tha, shaant awaaz mein bola. Yuddh se pehle jab Duryodhana ne bhari sabha mein unka apmaan kiya, to Vidura ne apna dhanush darwaze par rakha aur izzat ke saath chale gaye. Gussa nahi kiya, aur khud ko chhota bhi nahi samjha.
Duryodhana ki baat se Vidura chhote nahi hue, kyunki apni keemat unhone kabhi uske haath mein di hi nahi thi.
Neha ne bhi yahi seekha. Ab woh har kaam ka email trail rakhti hai. Raat 11 baje wale "?" ka jawab subah 9 baje deti hai. Har hafte diary mein apni teen achhi cheezein likhti hai. Usne chupchaap CV bhi update kar diya hai, bhaagne ke liye nahi, bas yaad rakhne ke liye ki darwaze aur bhi hain. Khurana sir waise ke waise hain. Bas Neha ab unki awaaz ko apni awaaz nahi samajhti.
Boss aapki job ka hissa hai, aapki pehchaan ka nahi. Unka mood unki problem hai, aapki report card nahi.
- Har roz sone se pehle ek line likho: aaj maine kya achha kiya, jo boss ne nahi dekha.
- Har important baat aur kaam email ya likhit mein rakho, aur office ke baad ke messages ka jawab office time mein do.
- Agar baat had se aage badh rahi ho to HR se baat karo, aur saath mein naye options dhoondhna shuru kar do. Yeh haar nahi, khud ko upar uthana hai.
Mantra: ॐ नमो भगवते वासुदेवाय (Om Namo Bhagavate Vasudevaya). Subah office nikalne se pehle aankhein band karke 11 baar shaant man se bolo.
Agar boss ki wajah se neend, bhookh ya man par lagaatar bura asar pad raha hai, to kisi counsellor se zaroor baat karein. Free aur confidential madad ke liye Tele-MANAS helpline 14416 par call kar sakte hain.